Conflict

This program explores how we respond to conflict in our lives - how we live with it, whether we embrace or avoid it, and what strategies we use to resolve it.

Member Preparation

In preparation for this session, read over the following quotes and think about times in your life when you have had to deal with conflict.

"All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest—never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership." – Ann Landers

"The direct use of force is such a poor solution to any problem, it is generally employed only by small children and large nations." – David Friedman

"Peace is not the absence of conflict but the presence of creative alternatives for responding to conflict—alternatives to passive or aggressive responses, alternatives to violence."  – Dorothy Thompson

When conflict is reconciled, some hatred remains;
how can this be put right?
The wise accept less than is due
And do not blame or punish;
For love seeks agreement
Where justice seeks payment.
- Tao Te Ching 79

These questions provide ways you may want to approach this topic. Remember to focus on just one or two of the questions, if you choose to use them, as this will allow you to explore the topic in more depth.

  • What conflicts do you currently face in your life? What past conflicts have you overcome?
  • How do you respond to conflict? Do you thrive on conflict or avoid it?
  • How do you resolve conflict? Where or from whom did you learn how to deal with conflict?
  • How does conflict make you feel?

Further Exploration