Letting Go

This program is about the people, things, ideas in our lives that we have or have not been able to let go. Members are encouraged to explore what would help them get to a point where they could let go, as well as how holding on or letting go of something affects us individually, as a group, and as a society.

Member Preparation

In preparation for this session, take some time to think about people, things, or ideas that you have (or have not) been able to let go. These questions provide ways you may want to approach this topic. Remember to focus on just one or two of the questions, if you choose to use them, as this will allow you to explore the topic in more depth.

  • What have you successfully let go of in your life and what do you think made letting go possible for you?
  • What is something you would like to let go of but have not been able to? What do you think would help you in the process of letting go? Why do you think you "should" let go? Can you think of anything that would help in the process of letting go?
  • What changes do you imagine will occur in your life once you let go of what you would like to let go of?
  • What needs are being served by what you are holding on to and what type of emptiness or difficulty might you face once you have let go? Do you have any thoughts or strategies on how to get the help you will need to support you with those difficulties?
  • Do your think our society places too much emphasis on letting go? If so why do you think we do? Also what do you think makes it hard for people to let go?
  • What in your view are the consequences to an individual, group, society, etc if he/ she or they cannot let go?
  • Is there a person that serves as a role model for you in the process of letting go?

Special Materials

Bring a copy of the poem “Past” by Pablo Neruda for the opening reading. The poem is available online at one of the following sites: Poetry by Pablo Neruda or Poetry Chaikhana.

Further Exploration

  • “The Art of Letting Go,” Sylvia Clare. Positive Health website
  • “A Mother’s Bond,” Barbara Hamilton-Holway. UU World (May/June 2003)
  • "Why I Am Fasting for Ramadan,” Abhi Janamanchi. UU World (October 2, 2006)
  • The Year of Magical Thinking. Joan Didion (Knopf, 2005)
  • Learning to Fall: The Blessings of an Imperfect Life. Philip Simmons. (Bantam, 2003)